During these discussions, you should set some ground rules. You can even include the third person to ensure that everyone is comfortable and will abide by those rules .

Common Ground Rules

• No kissing between non-romantic partners.
• No intercourse/penetration between non-romantic partners.
• Meet in public first.
• Share STI results.
• Specify a word if things are not going well, similar to a safe word in BDSM.
• The third person cannot spend the night.

Remember that your third person is still a person, so treat them as more than just an activity or novelty !

After these discussions, the action can begin! One thing to consider is whether you know both of the people in the room but they don’t know each other well (or vice versa). It can be helpful for the people who aren’t well acquainted to have a bit of alone time to fix that, so consider fixing a drink.

Speaking of drinking, a bit of social lubricant may help ease any jitters for everyone. A threesome can feel a bit nerve-wracking like a first date!

Talk, don’t assume – It’s just as important to communicate during your session. You should check in with your partner about whether or not he likes something you’re doing. When you get to know a new partner, the same tactic applies, and it can help you navigate the new feelings you may have during your first threesome.

When to stop – One thing you should be prepared for is that your partner may want you to stop. It may come as a direct, spoken request, or you may simply notice that one of the others in your threesome seems reserved. If one or both of you wants to stop, you should do so immediately.

This is a great time to check in. Sometimes the emotions can become so intense that someone experiences a panic attack or begins crying. At this point, communication, and care take precedence over any benefit you might receive from a threesome. However, a pause can help you to regroup and discuss your feelings before continuing.

Asking if you can continue to the next step – moving to the bedroom or bed, taking off clothing, or touching a certain body part is a great way to get consent whether you’re having a threesome or just with another person. If two people are a couple, the third might consider asking the one partner if it’s okay to touch the other.

It can be difficult to track what every person is doing, but any time two people focus specifically on each other, the third can feel left out or not know what to do in a threesome. Threesome tip: angle your bodies so that everyone can make eye contact with at least one other person. This leads us to our next point.

The Best Threesome Positions

It can be overwhelming to add an extra body to the bedroom, but planning a threesome and knowing what you’re doing will make things much, much easier. Let’s start with some threesome positions

Threesome ideas will vary based on whether you’ve set up an MMF or an FFM threesome and whatever ground rules you set. Obviously, if two men (or women) do not wish to touch, you’ll want to choose positions to accommodate them during three way sex.

• Double penetration – One partner penetrates you vaginally while the other penetrates you anally. You can start this with one male partner lying down on his back and you in the cowgirl position (see it here), then the other partner penetrates you from behind like in doggy style (see it demonstrated here)