I am in a much better financial situation than he is and he has come into my home with my car and says this makes things difficult for him because he feels like nothing is his. I have done everything in my power to show him what is mine is his, but he just seems to pull more and more away.

We have had his testosterone tested and it is low, but I feel there is more to it than that, because it has always been low, but before he was able to and wanted to show me affection, and now he is not interested, even though he knows how important it is to me. I have tried talking about it and tried ignoring it but neither option seems to change his behavior.

He says he is desperate for us to be together forever and I don’t want to lose him, so what do I do? desperate to save our relationship but feel so rejected.

I feel that maybe he Denver sugar daddy websites has experienced something in his past that is blocking him from wanting to be intimate. He is very affectionate in holding me and being close but not in an intimate way. Any professional advice will be most appreciated! anon2068

For example, he will rub my arm for hours but won’t hold my waist, nothing that could lead to sex really

Affection is not physical health. It is purely a mental health based upon the perception of human mentality to others. Affection should be within oneself and it is up to the other person to take it positively. anon2064

I would love to hear from any men out there who may be in love with their women but not want to be intimate with them

I am an adult man, 35, now going through the same situation with my current partner. The difference is that I have recognized that I have a problem with affection, due to a combination of childhood trauma and male chauvinist socialization for some time.

It is easy to recognize that what is in the past is in the past on a conscious level, however nothing, not even living in a Latin American country, where affection is very open, has been able to undo the sometimes anxiety-ridden experience and the sometimes natural experience of giving affection.

I don’t know what to do. I can see the pain and dejection of my partner in not getting what she expects from her man. I can’t know in every moment when she expects affection and those around me become a measure for how much I ought to give.

I love her and my frequent attempts at affection are deemed inadequate, or my bright moments are quickly forgotten. I know that I have made leaps since my childhood and am anything but a macho guy now, but I get disheartened when, and it is understandable, my partner gets on my case for not behaving as she expects.

I feel angry and hurt, but no matter how much I try to understand my partner’s position, thus defusing my anger with empathy, it does little to allay the fact that despite my best efforts there is no satisfying her.

My reaction to her voicing her needs, because it does touch a sore spot that has festered for some time, touches the seeds of anger. I don’t think that most men can control their anger in such a situation. Whether such an incident would entail verbal abuse, is, in my opinion, missing the pain and frustration of our loved one and therefore potentially selfish.